WEEK ONE: FIGHTING FOR RATHER THAN FIGHTING WITH YOUR SPOUSE
HOW LOVE DIES
ACTIONS TO BE TAKEN Context: Jesus to His bride, the Church.
Revelation 2:1–7 (NASB95) 1To the angel of the church in Ephesus write: The One who holds the seven stars in His right hand, the One who walks among the seven golden lampstands, says this: 2“I know your deeds and your toil and perseverance, and that you cannot tolerate evil men, and you put to the test those who call themselves apostles, and they are not, and you found them to be false; 3and you have perseverance and have endured for My name’s sake, and have not grown weary. 4But I have this against you, that you have left your first love. 5Therefore remember from where you have fallen, and repent and do the deeds you did at first; or else I am coming to you and will remove your lampstand out of its place—unless you repent. 6Yet this you do have, that you hate the deeds of the Nicolaitans, which I also hate. 7He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit says to the churches. To him who overcomes, I will grant to eat of the tree of life which is in the Paradise of God.’
CHANGING THE BATTLE LINES: FIGHTING FOR GODS’S DEFINITION OF LOVE
1. NOTICE FORSAKEN LOVE-YOUR FIRST LOVE (vs. 4)
2. JESUS’ COMMAND: YOU REMEMBER/CONSIDER…
Mark 8:35 For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me and for the gospel will save it.
3. REPENT, OR ELSE: THE MOST IMPORTANT FIGHT (See Matthew 10:39 and 2 Corinthians 7:10)
RE-DOING WHAT YOU DID AT FIRST: TAKING DOWN YOUR SIDE OF THE WALL (See also Philippians 4:12-13)
Romans 12:16–18 16Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited. 17Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. 18If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
THE GAME CHANGER: YOU CHANGE THE EQUATION BECAUSE OF WHAT GOD HAS ALREADY DONE FOR YOU.
Romans 12:1–2 1Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. 2Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
Stay alert—people drift. Stay in Christian relationships that guard and feed your perspective of love—life groups.
QUESTIONS TO DISCUSS IN LIFE GROUP OR WITH YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS
Passages to consider: John 13:34-35; Romans 12:9-21 (additionally: 1 Corinthians 13; Revelation 2-15) Note: this may be a good week to break out into men’s & women’s groups.
Extra: You might check this out: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1o30Ps-_8is&feature=youtu.be